When applying the instructions God has given to parents in His Word, most teaching in the home will take place during times of non-conflict. This is really the ideal learning situation for both the parent and child. The parent is typically better able to communicate during times of non-conflict and the child is generally more receptive to receiving and obeying instruction (i.e. when neither party is clouded by emotions often roused during times of conflict).
Therefore, rather than waiting until the heat of the moment to offer instruction to a child (as with the scenario given in the previous post — part 1), the parent should seek to consistently and continually offer biblical wisdom and instruction during times of non-conflict, such as during the course of everyday life (i.e. play time, doing homework, driving around town, cleaning up after a meal, etc.). At every point, the parent should be seeking opportunities to inform the child’s heart about God, himself, and others through the teaching of God’s Word. In doing so, the parent is laying the foundation of the child’s emerging world-view.
If the parent is faithful to undertake this task during times of non-conflict, then whenever those moments of conflict (i.e. when the child sets his will against the parent’s) do arise the child will actually become increasingly aware of his/her offense before the parent even has an opportunity to respond, simply because the parent has taken the time beforehand to reinforce the law written on heart of the child through the careful teaching of God’s Word (Deuteronomy 6.6-9; Romans 2.14-15). It really makes the subsequent process of correction and discipline a much more positive and effective process for both the parent and the child.
As noted before, God’s ways are far better than our own (Isaiah 55.8-9). Whenever we seek to operate in any area of life outside the parameters that God has revealed to us in His Word, we run the risk of not only missing out on the blessing of obedience, but also receiving His loving, yet firm hand of correction until we repent to follow His ways (Hebrews 12.7-11). May we, as parents, seek to follow God’s ways, for our good, for the good of our children, and for His glory (Romans 8.28-30)!